Timesaving with Social Clarity

10 Housed but not at Home

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[1] On the second Tuesday of June, Norman Baker and Nickantony Quach had a difficult conversation. Norman wanted to figure out his life’s goals only for this summer and the following year.

[2] “That’s not enough,” said Nick.

[3] “So I need to work on my navi,” wondered Norman. “What is my belonging, meaning, and purpose?”

[4] Navi is a new concept in Thumoslang. When Nick came up with it in their meeting last week, Norman named it navi, explained in the previous chapter, What is Character Renovation?

  • Navi; that means, belonging, meaning, and purpose.

[5] “You should not worry about navi before settling your ideals,” said Nick. “Navi tells you whether you’re on track to realize them. You should first determine the reputation you desire to have the most when you die.” Nick was referring to the following Thumoslang thumbnail definition.

  • Life; that means, reputation after death.


[6] “What do you truly want to become?” asked Nick. “What do you want to be known for after death?”

[7] “Metaphysicist,” answered Norman.

[8] “Have you spent an entire week working on metaphysics in your first 28 years?” asked Nick.

[9] “No,” said Norman.

[10] “Your answer lies in the realm of fantasy,” said Nick. “I don’t believe you will [spend at least an entire week working on metaphysics to] become a Metaphysicist.”

[11] “Stop talking like my parents,” said Norman. “Don’t tell me what I cannot achieve.”

[12] “You can achieve anything,” said Nick, “but to do something big, you have to pay your due and put in enough effort for it.”

[13] The difficulty appeared when the conversation turned into a shouting match without the shouting, thanks to the social norms expected at a neighborhood coffee shop. When the quarrel dies down, Norman works on his original mission in silence using his computer. Nick also worked in silence using his smartphone.

[14] Norman and Nick are in the same wealth-building friend group; Alec Mustafayev is the only other member. They call themselves Bongo One. Whenever they work together in person, they use an app for online chats as a productivity tool. In their bongo chatroom, they take turns writing down important decisions or statements generated by their collaboration.

[15] Alec was not there, but Nick attempted to work out what he would say to Alec if he were also in the meeting that morning. Nick built up a case in a sequence of postings in the bongo chat.

[16] “Nick is to write a chapter on the following instruction,” said Nick in his first posting, instead of directly sharing the idea with Norman. “What problems does your life solve? What solutions does it offer? Answers to these questions depict your life and the reputation you desire to have the most after you die. After choosing your final destination, you should choose all the necessary milestones along the way. When you identify those milestones, you express your ideal self and settle your ideals. Your navi tells you whether you’re on track toward them.”

[17] “Alec, those are the steps to figure out your purpose,” said Nick in the second posting, pretending as if Alec were there. “What problems do all your novels solve? What solutions do they offer? Answers to these questions will speed up your work on fiction.”

[18] “Will your novels introduce the concept of man as a heroic being, with his happiness as the moral purpose of his life, productive achievement as his noblest activity, and reason as his only absolute?” asked Nick in the third posting. “If so, the purpose of your novels, and thus that of your life, is objectivism.”

[19] The three postings got Norman and Nick talking again. They teach you the origin of a good life.

[20] “Thank you,” said Nick. “for forcing me to come up with these postings” as a generic way to address the following question. What is the ultimate first step toward a good life? All chapters in Thumoslang on the Run tell you what to do after the first step. However, they do not explain how to get started with the journey.

[21] “You’re welcome,” responded Norman.

[22] “The issue I couldn’t address in the past was when people asked me the following question,” explained Nick. “How could Thumoslang help me to identify what my ideals are?”

  • Meaning; that means, the description of importance.

[23] Thumoslang gives you meaning. The formal vocabulary does not tell you the meaning of things in the subjective world of your mind. Instead, its operating terms empower you with a faithful depiction of all the essential things you care for in your world. It’s hard to be honest to yourself without high fidelity in meaning. Consider the following sequence of Thumoslang thumbnail definitions, borrowed from Chapter 7, What is the Content of the Character?

  1. Service; that means, deliberate assistance.
  2. Benefit; that means, service to others.
  3. Usefulness; that means, offering a benefit.
  4. Value; that means, the level of usefulness.
  5. Purpose; that means, value to others.
  6. Relation; that means, purposeful involvement.
  7. Belonging; that means, secure relations.
  8. Relationship; that means, ongoing relations.

[24] Thumoslang explains why many people find themselves confused between a service and a relation. The former is part of the latter. A relation is when two partners service each other for the same purpose.

[25] Thumoslang also explains why you do not need relationships to have a sense of belonging. Both concepts depend on relations, not vice versa.

[26] People dealing with homelessness understand the difference between the housed and the unhoused. When two unhoused individuals live under the same freeway overpass, they have many opportunities to serve one another for the same purpose: to develop relations between them. They may not have a relationship with one another because their relations are not ongoing.

  • Danger; that means, suffering probability.
  • Fear; that means, expected danger.
  • Security; that means, freedom from fear.

[27] Since the unhoused rarely expect danger from one another, their relations might be fragile but secure. As soon as they have secure relations, their feelings tell them they belong to the same group. They may be unhoused but often feel at home.

[28] In contrast, two housed individuals living on the same street may never get to know one another. It is not rare for people in our modern world to have no connections with their neighbors. That explains why newcomers to a place often find themselves housed but not at home.

  • Navi; that means, belonging, meaning, and purpose.

[29] As explained in the previous chapter, “a navi is a set of three things: belonging, meaning, and purpose. If you do not have one of these, you do not have a navi. You cannot have a good life without it. You might be on track toward your ideals when you have a navi. Otherwise, without it, there is no hope. You have a navi as soon as you have a sense of belonging, hold up your meaning, and express your purpose.”

[30] Don’t worry about your navi before you nail down your idea of a good life. You should address two ultimate questions. What problems do you want your life to solve? What solutions do you want it to offer?

[31] “Norman, what you said earlier about wanting to become a metaphysicist, was not compelling because it did not match with what you did,” explained Nick. “You never spent much time on metaphysics. It’s like philosophy without energy or talk without action. I like the above approach to identifying the origin of a good life because it forces you to come up with more action and less talk. Thumoslang is language. Speaking it does not make it real.”

[32] “Thumoslang changed me,” said Norman.

[33] “Words don’t change you,” declared Nick. “Actions do. Changes are impossible without energy.”

[34] “Did English change you?” Asked Norman.

[35] “No,” said Nick. “America did. The language did not change me when I learned it in Vietnam. English speakers in America changed me. Their actions generated the necessary energy to change me. English as a language did not.”

[36] “Did Mathematics change you?” Asked Norman as he recalled Nick’s education.

[37] “No,” said Nick. “Computer Science did. Computer programming is the action I got out of mathematics. Before I involved myself with software, mathematics was just one of the many languages I had to learn.”


[38] “Did Thumoslang change you?” asked Norman.

[39] “No,” said Nick. “You did.”

[40] Norman was speechless.

[41] “You and Alec, my bongo siblings, changed me,” said Nick. “Sure, we use Thumoslang as our official language, but the language did not change me. The way you used the language did. How you guys used Thumoslang made me go all in for its development.”

[42] “How does Thumoslang mitigate Jamie Wheal’s collapse of meaning?” asked Norman.

[43] “Religions brought us Meaning 1.0, but their power fades over time because they did not show people how to harness the energy,” uttered Nick without thinking. “Sciences and technologies filled the void. They involved the harnessing of energy and brought us Meaning 2.0.”

[44] Norman was speechless again. Nick felt the same way as he understood more of his utterance’s significance.

[45] “Thumoslang gives us perhaps Meaning 3.0,” concluded the two friends.

[46] If you do not feel at home in your house, give it a try.


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