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Timesaving with Social Clarity

24 A New Kind of Friend Group

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[1] One of the most creative terms in Thumoslang is bongo. Bongos in English are an Afro-Cuban percussion instrument consisting of a pair of small open-bottomed hand drums of different sizes. They also refer to a herd of antelopes.

[2] The Bantu languages are a large family of languages spoken by the Bantu peoples in southern Africa. One of them is Lingala, spoken in Congo. In the vocabulary, an móngó means an antelope. An unknown English speaker borrowed that word and used its phonetic expression, bongo, to convey a particular type of antelope whose scientific name is Tragelaphus eurycerus.

[3] The video [Big Herd of Bongos! Amazing!](v=YnAgKGYpD-U) shows a herd of bongos. It’s fun to watch the video. Notice how they waggle their large ears. The ears’ largeness helps sharpen hearing, whereas their distinctive coloration may help bongos identify one another in their dark forest habitats.

[4] In Thumoslang, a bongo is an affectionate name for a wealth-building friend group (WBFG). The following sequence of Thumoslang thumbnail definitions should help explain.

  • Service; that means, deliberate assistance.
  • Benefit; that means, service to others.
  • Gain; that means, received benefits.
  • Income; that means, spendable gains.
  • Wealth; that means, passive income.
  • Bongo; that means, a wealth-building friend group.

[5] WBFG is not a single-purpose group such as a chess club. Members who lose interest in chess typically no longer want to do things with the chess club. Furthermore, a WBFG is not an investment club either. The latter is a group of people who pool their money to make investments. In contrast, the former is a group of friends who pool their intelligence to create wealth based on personal ideals, even from their empty hands.

[6] The phrase, wealth-building friend group, is a mouthful with five syllables. Its abbreviation WBFG is even harder to pronounce, with six syllables. Neither the expression nor its abbreviation is good enough in a prolonged discussion that often brings up the concept of a WBFG. Nickantony Quach and Alec Mustafayev saw the issue in an extended discussion during the last days of 2021. They used the term “bongo” as an affectionate name for a WBFG.

[7] A bongo is a different type of friend group. Its mission is to build wealth based on its members’ ideals. A bongo is a group of in-person friends whose mission is their ideals. It is the family you choose to have, complementing your birth family.

A bongo is a different type of friend group. Its mission is to build wealth based on its members’ ideals. A bongo is a group of in-person friends whose mission is their ideals. It is the family you choose to have, complementing your birth family.

[8] Before joining or forming a local bongo, you must not have any skills or desires. You only need to be yourself and desire to discover and develop your ideal self, the primary objective of your life. Soon you will want to create a bongo, a group of in-person friends who will stick with you much longer than the local friends you lost over time. Building any group of friends as your social capital takes time and other resources. Along the way, why should you not be able to profit from such an investment?

[9] By definition, you will never lose interest in your ideals. You may not completely understand them, but you always have personal ideals. You would never want to give up on your bongo because its mission is your ideals. That’s why a bongo is a better form of a friend group. Why else would you want to become one of its founders?

[10] Because your parents did not focus on your ideals by nature, you spend less and less time with them but more and more time with your in-person yet momentary friends. However, they tend to leave you when they secure a better opportunity elsewhere for their ideals. That’s why most of our friendships fade away over time. This common struggle is known in Thumoslang as The Black Mountain of Social Life, coined by Jairson Ascencao in 2019, shortly before the pandemic.

[11] We could never recover the cost of developing friendships in our youth. We could not go back to give our childhood a second chance. We could never replace the friends from our youth after we lose them over time. Building any group of friends as our social capital always takes time and other resources. Along the way, how could we profit from such investment in the long run? The next best hope is prevention; building a bongo is a new approach to friendship, a preventive measure against The Black Mountain of Social Life.

[12] At the start of 2022, Alec Mustafayev, Nickantony Quach, and Norman D. Baker formed the first WBFG; they called themselves Bongo One. All three are the main characters of the still-developing nonfiction story The Chronicle of Bongo One. It traces the growth of their group and thereby demonstrates the power of Thumoslang, the official language they use to conduct their meetings and make decisions. Chapter 7, First Thumoslang Speakers, already spelled out how members of a bongo should run their primary weeklies, also known as bongo drives.

[13] Alec Mustafayev (right), born in 2002, and Norman D. Baker (left), born in 1993, are still in their lives’ experimental stage. They contributed much of their effort to developing this book because they wanted it to help their peers worldwide go after their ideals as soon as possible. Teachers everywhere could also use it to help their students do the same.

[14] Parents, teachers, and mentors can use this text to help their students minimize unwanted drama in their lives. In that way, they can go at the highest speed possible toward their ideals. If learners discovered how to focus their energy on their ideals, they would take the initiative to keep distractions at bay and pay attention to more teaching materials.

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