Making friends for your ideal self by creating your local wealth-building friend group (WBFG) based on its members’ personal ideals
Thumosdegu Part 3
Making Friends Good Enough for Your Ideals
How to Have Relationships with the Locals Who Volunteer for Your Ideals Regularly
This document is also known as:
Part 2 of Handbook for Wealth-Building Friend Groups
Part 3 of Thumosdegu – The Making of Thumoslang
- Black Mountain of Social Life
- Your Mentor
- Our Vocabulary
- Our First Meeting
- The Foundation of Leadership
- A New Kind of Friend Group
- Appendix 1 Outline & Overview
- Appendix 2 [Proposed Material] Optimizing My Life with Social Clarity
- Release Notes & Feedback Request
When a naturally formed friend group fades away, its members lose a large part of their emotional investment in it. They may no longer be able to count on other members as their social capital. What if we had a chance to restart; how should we design our friend group? This document shows you how to create a friend group by design instead of a friend group by default.
Though we didn’t realize it when we were younger, now we see that we invested a great deal of time and emotion into our relationships with our schoolmates. Why should we spend so much time building these relationships when our loved ones could leave all of a sudden? Especially when we love them?
There exists within us all a need for company. We often wish we could have the connections other people appear to possess. But something stands in our way; we call the black mountain of social life one of the biggest and darkest problems in life. Have you ever felt that you lacked a group to fall back on in hard times? Maybe that you had no friends at all?
Meeting random people is easy. Not keeping them in your circle of friends as long as you want is the black mountain of social life. We all have to face it. The video [The Black Mountain of Social Life | NDBaker93 Thumoslang106 | S12E11](v=8KVfD57nO6A) explains further.
Let’s overcome the black mountain of social life. Why should we not profit from the journey along the way?
I’m Nickantony Quach, a life coach acting as your mentor. Thanks for giving me a chance to help you overcome the black mountain of social life. I will show you how to create a group of friends who will stick with you much longer than the friends you lost in the past. It takes time and other resources to build a friend group as your social capital. Along the way, I will show you how to profit from such investment.
We, you and I, will not do it alone. Joining us on our journey are Alec Mustafayev of Rhode Island, born in 2002, and Brandon Latham, a character created by the nonfiction booklet Building Wealth from Empty Hands.
Nick, your mentor!
In early 2022, Brandon Latham formed a one-man show called the Thumoslang BKE Group (T3BKE), pronounced as T-3-Baker. The group’s mission is to build wealth based on its members’ personal ideals. T3BKE is a wealth-building friend group (WBFG).
Let’s get Alec Mustafayev, you, and me to join the fictitious group. Now T3BKE has four members: you (the reader), Nickantony Quach (me), Alec Mustafayev (a real person), and Brandon Latham (a fictitious character).
Alec and I are also members of T3PVD, a WBFG based in Providence, Rhode Island.
You will create a local WBFG when you feel ready for the challenge. For now, you should consider yourself a member of the fictitious group T3BKE.
To ensure that we understand one another completely, we adopt Thumoslang as our official language.
Brandon is new to Thumoslang. Chapter 11 in the booklet Building Wealth from Empty Hands tells us how Brandon absorbed The First Lessons in Thumoslang. You should first read all chapters in the booklet and follow their instructions to catch up with Brandon’s knowledge of Thumoslang.
Whenever you feel unsure what to read, aim your browser at the pamphlet A Quick Start Guide to Thumoslang and use its suggestions.
Let’s pretend that we had our first meeting already. Let me remind you how our meeting played out.
Our Personal Ideals
After I asked everyone to express their ideals as much as possible in the meeting, we shared with everyone our personal situations.
- Alec’s ideals include fiction as a career; he published his first novel at 15.
- My ideals include the widespread use of Thumoslang, the creation of my life.
- Brandon’s ideals include life in his hometown without being forced to move elsewhere; he has personal reasons.
- Your ideals include being part of a local wealth-building friend group (WBFG); you want to make use of half your screen hours for the future instead.
Our Current Situations
Alec has been working on his second novel in the last two years. Due to social and video distractions, he couldn’t bring himself to finish the work as quickly as he desired. That gave his work many opportunities to grow in complexity for the plot; it’s not a bad thing.
My co-author Mark Canny and I created Thumoslang when we published the original Thumos textbook (OTB) in 2017. We did not mention the word Thumoslang in the book because we did not understand the vocabulary thoroughly. I discovered its immense power two years later, in December 2018. I did not publish any work on Thumoslang until two more years. With editorial help from Alec, he and I, in 2021, published Trekvella, a collection of eight reading series about Thumoslang. Trekvella is an affectionate name for the Thumoslang Reading Collection on Kindle Vella, a Thumoslang octalogy. In late 2021, I’m still figuring out how to spread the use of Thumoslang.
Halfway between the equator and the North Pole, Baker City is a small city with less than ten thousand people. One of them is Brandon Latham, born in 2003. A year younger than Alec Mustafayev, Latham is still in the experimental stage of his life. Latham has several friend groups. However, most of his friends are not as interested in their future as Latham is in his. Due to personal reasons, Brandon couldn’t move away from his hometown in the middle of nowhere. Baker City is over two hours North of Boise, Idaho, almost five hours South of Spokane, Washington, and more than six hours East of Portland, Oregon. Brandon is still trying to figure out how to survive his predicament a thousand miles West of nowhere. That’s why he was glad to have discovered the document Building Wealth from Empty Hands.
We are still pretending that you and I had our first meeting with Alec and Brandon. Alec is an actual person in Rhode Island, whereas Brandon is a fictitious character. Let me remind you of what we understood of your current situation.
Like Brandon, you’re also in the experimental stage of your life. You do part-time jobs here and there, but you have a lot of time at hand. You spend many hours watching videos and playing games. However, you do not want to live that way and spend all your free time on entertainment. You want to make use of half your screen hours for the future instead.
Our Next Steps
Figuring out the next steps for us all is why we joined the Thumoslang BKE Group (T3BKE). Its official language is Thumoslang, and its mission is to build wealth based on our personal ideals.
Let’s review the current level of our Thumoslang knowledge. Brandon knows about Thumoslang so far from reading the document Building Wealth from Empty Hands, listed in the Quickstart Guide to Thumoslang. After he watched the video [The First Step | Grow Up With AOC | S1E4](v=5LJ0H7vgzXA) as instructed by Chapter 4, he encountered his first three Thumoslang thumbnail definitions:
- Journey; that means, self-discovery.
- Success; that means, peer recognition.
- Wealth; that means, passive income.
Brandon finished reading An Important Walk, the first episode of the Kindle Vella series Thumoslang Stories. He saw how I discharged the power of Thumoslang and changed a new friend’s worldview in only a dozen sentences. It’s an essential skill. That’s why he studied Changing Life in 20 Sentences, the second episode in the Kindle Vella series Personal Startup Using Thumoslang. He learned more about how to discharge the power of Thumoslang and change another person’s worldview only in a dozen sentences, but several times during an extended conversation. Chapter 5 asks him to look for an opportunity to change a stranger’s worldview but only in a dozen sentences. Brandon did not have a chance to do that yet.
Chapter 6 shows Brandon how to become a successful leader. He followed its instruction and took the Guided Thumoslang Tour to Leadership; it introduced him to a dozen videos on Ri4CTV about leadership. He watched most of them. Along the tour, he soon realized that he could not build a WBFG without the fundamental knowledge of leadership presented by the tour.
Wealth-Building Friend Group (WBFG) is a new kind of friend group. As stated in Chapter 2 of Thumosdegu Part 3, we want to create a group of friends who will stick with us much longer than the friends we lost in the past. It takes time and other resources to build a friend group as our social capital. Along the way, we should be able to profit from such investment. Nickantony Quach (left) created the concept of WBFG in early December 2021 while writing Building Wealth from Empty Hands. The first example of WBFG in real life is the Thumoslang PVD Group (T3PVD).
WBFG is not an investment club. The latter is a group of people who pool their money to make investments. In contrast, the former is a group of friends who pool their intelligence to create wealth from their empty hands. Generally, older people form an investment club after they have some money. Typically younger people form a WBFG while still poor and in the experimental stage of their lives.
The default language of a WBFG is Thumoslang, the formal vocabulary for optimizing life through social clarity based on falsifiable truth. However, WBFG is not a Thumoslang-learning club; it’s not a single-purpose group such as a chess club.
The default mission of the group is to build wealth based on its members’ personal ideals. For that, group members must foresee the development of their ideals and have foresight into why people would want to pay for the realization of their ideals. The following five Thumoslang thumbnail definitions explain the concept of wealth as used herein.
- Service; that means, deliberate assistance.
- Benefit; that means, service to others.
- Gain; that means, received benefits.
- Income; that means, spendable gains.
- Wealth; that means, passive income.
WBFG may choose to build social capital as its first form of wealth. Social capital, however, does not imply immediate or direct financial gains.
A metonymic expression of foreseeing or foresight is “4C.” Since T3PVD sits in Rhode Island, its YouTube channel is Ri4CTV, which means Rhode Island Foresight Television. The channel serves WBFG’s everywhere by publishing videos about Thumoslang and related topics.
It’s impossible to overstate the importance of foresight. Alec Mustafayev (right) believes that every WBFG works like a Foresight Club. It’s an idea for anyone who wants to create a conflict-free and pleasant learning experience for a small group; see Foresight Club Architecture. The club operates using four sets of basic rules based on its four philosophical pillars: freedom, inclusion, respect, and methodology; see the Foresight Club Architecture Presentation.
Members of your WBFG are the best kind of friends. They knew one another when they were nobodies. They tend to stick together for life as their wealth depends on their personal ideals.
WBFG is an alternative approach to a traditional career. The latter often takes you away from your preferred hometown and away from existing friends. That’s how many friendships faded away in the first place.
WBFG is all about localization; members choose to live in one place instead of moving around as a career dictates. It is the opposite of globalization. The idea is to offer the global markets what personal ideals of a group can generate. The ultimate goals are friends for life and income for good in the same package.
SOURCE: The above text is from Chapter 6 of Thumosdegu Part 3 — Making Friends Good Enough for Your Ideals.
Thumoslang’s immense power rests with its thumbnail definitions; consider the following Thumoslang thumbnail definitions:
- Optimum; that means, the best obtainable.
- Life; that means, reputation after death.
- Social; that means, living and dealing with others.
- Social clarity; that means, the complete understanding of a social situation.
- Systematic; that means, self-serving bias eliminated.
To optimize your life systematically with social clarity, you must be able to make the most out of every social situation, be it at work, in school, or elsewhere. You deal with either a service or relation for each interaction with a person in it, but not both. Consider the following Thumoslang thumbnail definitions:
- Service; that means, deliberate assistance.
- Relation; that means, purposeful involvement.
When your parents offer you a piece of advice, even if it is wanted, you either take it or leave it. Either way, you are looking at a service, not a relation. You could never build a relation in that particular situation. Relation Over Service (S2E5), the 5th episode in the Kindle Vella series Practical Guide to Thumoslang (the 2nd series in the Thumoslang octalogy Trekvella), explains further.
If you want to make a relationship stronger or more meaningful, add a new relation. Black Mountain of Social Life (S3E4), the 4th episode in the Kindle Vella series Thumoslang at Work (the 3rd series in the Thumoslang octalogy Trekvella), explains the difference.
A relationship is meaningful when it helps you go towards your life’s milestones most meaningful to you. It is a social shortcut when it speeds that up. Otherwise, it is a social roadblock. Your Next Best Hope (S8E3), the 3rd episode in the Kindle Vella series The Business of Your Ideals (the 8th series in the Thumoslang octalogy Trekvella), explains the difference.
To optimize your life systematically with social clarity, you must be fluent in Thumoslang, the formal vocabulary for optimizing social life.
The largest source of Thumoslang knowledge is the Thumoslang Reading Collection on Kindle Vella, affectionately known as the octalogy Trekvella. The collection has more than 60 reading episodes. It’s easy to find them; search for Thumoslang on the Amazon shopping website.
A significant amount of educational material for Thumoslang is available free of charge. For example, the YouTube series Thumoslang101 captured the first successful demonstration of Thumoslang.
The YouTube series Thumoslang102 captured the first successful use of Thumoslang101. If you want to learn Thumoslang by watching videos, begin with the YouTube series Thumoslang102. Other Thumoslang and related videos are also available on the YouTube TV station Ri4CTV, Rhode Island Foresight Television.
Also available on Amazon is the 2017 book Thumos: Adulthood, Love & Collaboration. It is the first publication to present Thumoslang thumbnail definitions. The hardcover version is available at Barnes & Noble. This book is an excellent source of educational material for every Thumoslang learner. Chapter Six may have the most potent knowledge of all. This chapter is the first publication to define the action of love in a falsifiable way.
Furthermore, equally important, it shows you how to discharge the power of love systematically. Chapter Six gives rise to the video [The 8 Laws of Love in Thumoslang](v=5jF1zSkaHxg). In the Kindle Vella series Thumoslang Philosophy (the 4th series of the octalogy Trekvella), the fourth reading episode, The Law of Love, explains further the material presented in the video.
If you have never heard of Thumoslang or believe that you need to improve your social life, the following document is for you.
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