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Why is Love Impossible Without Falsifiability?

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Thumosdegu Part 2
Why is Love Impossible Without Falsifiability?

Are you ready for a good life, or do you want to become more intelligent or more powerful than you have been led to believe?

Nickantony Quach

This document is also known as:

Part 2 of Thumosdegu – The Making of Thumoslang

Table of Contents

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  1. Your Thumos Landing
  2. Platform Philosophy
  3. Disrespect at the Highest Level
  4. The First Element of Love
  5. Love Impossible Without Falsifiability
  6. Release Notes & Feedback Request


1 | Your Thumos Landing

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Many greetings to you from Providence, Rhode Island!

My name is Nickantony Quach and, please, consider this interactive book, The Thumoslang Story, my letter to you. You will indirectly harvest a lot of information through your interaction with it, for example, by watching suggested videos.

You’re reading the second part of the book. I will cover several topics on this page, assuming that you went through The Meaning of Having a Good Life or Career in Philosophy, Part 1 of The Thumoslang Story. If you did not read the first part, please do it before returning here and continuing with this web page.

If you are in Providence, Rhode Island, you may want to read this at Thumos Landing. The above photo shows where it is. Otherwise, if you do not live in Providence, select a sightseeing place near home and let others know that it is considered the Thumos Landing in your hometown. It should be where the locals share, even with strangers, and rediscover The First Thumos Mantra along with other Thumoslang thumbnail definitions.

To experience being there at Thumos Landing in Providence, watch the video [Master of the Sky | PVD Philosophy | S1E2](v=fKdbo2US7q8).


2 | Platform Philosophy

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Philosophy is a way of life. How you live is your philosophy, based on the wisdom of your culture. How I live is my philosophy, based on the wisdom of my culture. For clarity, consider the following three Thumoslang thumbnail definitions.

  • Culture; that means, all the work and thought passed down.
  • Wisdom; that means, effective use of knowledge.
  • Philosophy; that means, accepted wisdom.

Platform technology is a set of primary products and essential services used to build and launch another technology. Likewise, platform philosophy is a set of primary terms and essential rules used to build and launch another philosophy.

Thumoslang is a platform philosophy, but it has no rules. It is simply a collection of countless thumbnail definitions, the first of which is The First Thumos Mantra.

  • Focus; that means, saying no to all else.
  • Concentration; that means, focusing effort.
  • Mantra; that means, aiding concentration.

Anyone could use Thumoslang as a platform to develop a personal philosophy. Furthermore, we could translate two different philosophies or religions into Thumoslang and falsifiably compare the two.

Here is a sample use of Thumoslang as a platform philosophy. In late March 2021, Alec Mustafayev and I came up with the eight laws of love using Thumoslang. Days later, we came up with the dialogue to make a video for the new material. As soon as we nailed the script in early April, they produced the video [The 8 Laws of Love in Thumoslang | T3love | S1E1](v=5jF1zSkaHxg). That was only two weeks after we first conceptualized our law of love. As listed below, I use these eight laws of love as part of my philosophy: my way of life.

  1. You are never required to love anyone.
  2. Your target of love is never required to love you back.
  3. Loving words do not love.
  4. If you cannot express your ideals, others cannot love you.
  5. Your ideals are the same as your ideal self, which means, what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
  6. Loving means the nurturing of personal ideals.
  7. Loving action requires the use of energy.
  8. For the target of love, the outcome of love is freedom from the originator of love.

The key terms used in the above laws are love, your ideals, and freedom. Thumoslang uses the following thumbnail definitions to identify them.

  • Milestones; that means, chronological objectives.
  • Your ideals; that means, your most meaningful milestones.
  • Love; that means, the nurturing of personal ideals.
  • Restraint; that means, holding back.
  • Freedom; that means, no restraints.

You must not live according to my laws of love. I live according to them, knowing that others cannot misinterpret them because Thumoslang constrains their meaning. Using the above thumbnail definitions, Thumoslang ensures that we all have a matching understanding of my laws of love, even if not all of us agree with them. The agreement is not necessary, but matching understanding is everything. Alec Mustafayev explains further in the following video.


3 | Disrespect at the Highest Level

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The report filed by Amanda Holpuch (@holpuch) from New York in early February 2021 mentions The Lancet, a weekly peer-reviewed general medical journal. According to its commission tasked with assessing Donald Trump’s health policy record, the US could have averted 40% of the deaths from Covid-19 had its death rates corresponded with the rates in other high-income G7 countries.

Almost 470,000 Americans have died from the coronavirus at report time. At the same time, Covid-19 infected some 27 million people in the US. Both figures were by far the highest in the world.

In seeking to respond to the pandemic, many had condemned Trump for not taking the pandemic seriously soon enough, spreading conspiracy theories, not encouraging mask-wearing, and undermining scientists and others seeking to combat the virus’s spread.

In other words, the Trump administration, if not Donald Trump himself, could have averted over 100,000 deaths from Covid-19.

  • Leadership; that means, ahead of history.

National leadership is about being ahead of your citizens’ history. It’s not about letting many of them die needlessly; see Birth of a New Leader, Chapter 9 in Part 1 of The Thumoslang Story.

In the following month, Ryan Chatelain reported that pandemic officials say the Trump administration marginalized them, interfered with their work, and could have prevented many deaths. “Several Trump administration health officials tasked with tackling the COVID-19 pandemic say they were marginalized by the White House and felt pressured not to speak candidly about the virus to the media. They painted a picture of an administration that took the coronavirus lightly, could have prevented hundreds of thousands of deaths, and interfered with scientific work for what they said was political reasons.”

According to many independent reports, Donald Trump interfered with the work carried out by medical professionals. As a result, many people died needlessly.

When Trump interfered with medical professionals, he prevented them from carrying out their mission. Interfering can, therefore, be deadly, even at a regional or national scale. It is necessary to teach people how to avoid interfering with others at the earliest possible opportunity. Hopefully, they will still remember the lesson when they happen to become a high-level leader. The following two Thumoslang thumbnail definitions should help.

  • Interfering; that means, preventing completion.
  • Respect; that means, no interfering.

The above true story should tell you how consequential The First Thumos Mantra is. Even the President of the United States may not know how to discharge its immense power properly.

Suppose you could master the mantra, also known as the first Thumoslang thumbnail definition. In that case, you should reduce a significant amount of unwanted drama in your future and save several lives even.

It’s never too early to teach children the above lessons. The video [How The Children Should Speak The Parent Language | NDBaker93 | S6E11](v=RE2pjyz5Flo) tells the story of how a third-grade student used The First Thumos Mantra against his father. The latter was asking the former to stop watching TV.


4 | The First Element of Love

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What do we mean when we say “love?” According to a traditional dictionary, as a noun, it’s a strong feeling toward another person. As a verb, it’s to feel love, in other words, to have an affection for someone. The following Thumoslang thumbnail definitions should help.

  • Admiration; that means, high regard.
  • Attraction; that means, arousing admiration.
  • Fond; that means, strong liking.
  • Affection; that means, degree of fondness.

One day in 2018, a Brown University alumni sat before me and spent an hour searching his religion’s comprehensive database for a better definition of love. He found himself surprised by the result. His religion did not have an explicit definition of love.

I spent 12 years in school, “four years” in college, and several decades working with many professionals. I never ran into anyone who could explain what love is, how it works, and what to do for it. That’s why I never said to anyone else the following three words during the first half of my life: I love you. I cannot say something that important to another person without understanding its meaning.

I asked many people, and all of them told me that their parents never explained the mechanics of love: what love is, how it works, and what to do for it.

Several weeks before the September 11th Attacks, I walked my son to school on his first day in first grade. On the way back home, between our good-bye and the first stop sign, I realized that I had always been a father by default, but I never was a father by design.

“What kind of a father do I want to become?” I asked myself as I walked home.

As I grew up, I was never impressed with how parents in real life and their counterparts in fiction discharge their parenting duties. They often come up with too many rules for their children, or worse, no rules at all. Still, they have a hard time remembering most of their own rules and, more importantly, applying them in front of their children.

I had no education in parenting; who does? At the time, I had lived 14 years in Asia, seven years in Europe, and two decades in the US. With determination, I spent several hours every night in the following week to figure out what it would take for me to become the first-ever hopefully perfect father.

  • Exit criteria; that means, condition for completion.

My college degree is in Mathematics. It was time to compute. Whatever it takes, it could be neither no rules nor too many. To avoid having no rules, I had to choose at least one. Since I couldn’t reach the upper limit with an acceptable rationale, so I had to go with what I had: one. However, having only one rule for my son throughout my parenting career would be too few. Let’s see. Having several rules might be too many. Having only one over the years might be too few. This line of thought led me to the following conclusion. Let’s have no more than one new rule each year. That’s my exit criteria.

The week was almost over. I could worry about the second rule a year later, at the start of my son’s second grade. For now, I only needed to come up with one and only one rule. However, for the first-grader, it could not have too many words. I wouldn’t read or remember any complex instruction from my parents; why should I torture my son?

Finally, I decided to go with a virtue instead of a rule. Recalling my years from three different continents, I settled with a virtue that most cultures value: respect. Before the week was out, I reduced the complex lesson expressed by many online into a short mantra. Years later, I refer to it as The First Thumos Mantra, aka the first Thumoslang thumbnail definition:

  • Respect; that means, no interfering.

I did not know what I was doing. At the time, I did not understand that what I came up with was a “definition,” not a rule. I told my son that I had one and only one rule for him every year, starting with first grade. One week after he started first grade, I reminded him of these five words once every week. After he remembered the mantra by heart, I drilled him with the following question. Do you know what interfering means in a football game? He didn’t explain well, but I made sure that he understood with the equivalence of the following thumbnail definition:

  • Interfering; that means, preventing completion.

Two years later, my son used The First Thumos Mantra against me. I felt shocked but happy knowing that he got the lesson in his blood. The video [How The Children Should Speak The Parent Language | NDBaker93 | S6E11](v=RE2pjyz5Flo) tells the rest of the story.

When Mark Canny worked as my co-writer on a book based on The First Thumos Mantra, among other things, we identified respect as the first element of love. In the original Thumos book (OTB), the 2017 textbook Thumos: Adulthood, Love & Collaboration, Chapter Six, we explained why and how. You will learn how to discharge all elements of love properly. See the video [The First Falsifiable Definition of Love | NDBaker93 Thumoslang105 | S8E3](v=OSCNS21nGwQ) for a sneak preview.

What’s the relationship between love and respect; how do these two concepts relate to one another? Consider the following Thumoslang thumbnail definitions.

  • Fostering; that means, encouraging development.
  • Nurturing; that means, fostering growth.
  • Your-ideals; that means, your most meaningful milestones.
  • Love; that means, the nurturing of personal ideals.

If I want to love you, I have to discover your ideals and all the milestones in your life that are most meaningful to you. Furthermore, I have to avoid interfering with your life as you are on your way to reaching those milestones. In other words, I have to respect you. If I couldn’t respect you, I couldn’t love you. That’s why respect is the first element of love.

If you want to love, you have to discharge respect properly. You cannot do so without knowing the personal ideals valued by your target of love. Conversely, others could not love you if you failed to express your ideal self, i.e., what you truly want to become. For a complete answer to the question of what love is, see Chapter Six in the OTB.


5 | Love Impossible Without Falsifiability

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“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life,” said Steve Jobs. The video [Steve Jobs’ 2005 Stanford Commencement Address](v=UF8uR6Z6KLc) captured his words. I watched the video and listened to his speech a dozen times; I asked myself the following question each time. Am I prepared to die?

“Almost everything–all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure–these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important,” Steve spoke on in the video. “Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”

When I told others that I was preparing to die, they wrongly assumed I wanted to die. I don’t want to die. Steve knows, mark his following words. “No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet, death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it, and that is how it should be because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It’s life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new.”

Here is how I prepare to die. Before I die, I want to leave this story, Thumosdegu – The Making of Thumoslang, as my final words for humanity. I cannot control my last words, but I can, with deliberation, plan for my final words.

  • Ultimate; that means, in the eventual end.
  • Final; that means, ultimate and unalterable.
  • Deliberation; that means, documented consideration.

It is difficult for many to misinterpret any operative word in this story because its meaning rests with Thumoslang. Here is a perfect example. You may not hear my last words, but you can always read my final words as they play out in this story.

I have no intention to insert any misinformation, disinformation, or malinformation into this story, my final words. If a sentence herein is false or misleading, I’m sorry; ignore it.

  • Misinformation; that means, unintentional inaccuracy.
  • Disinformation; that means, fabricated content.
  • Malinformation; that means, deliberate misuse.

What I write may be unintentionally incorrect, but I can assure you that it is never true simply because I said so. What I hate the most is dogma; I prefer to make only falsifiable statements. See Falsifiable Truth in Part 1.

  • Dogma; that means, self-declared truth.
  • Falsifiable; that means, non-dogmatic.
  • Falsifiability; that means, a better version is possible.

Who am I to know that my final words are necessary for most members of our humanity? I don’t. Here is what I know. Anyone can correct my work, even after I die, and improve its quality, so long as dogma is not a result.

I love you.

I never said those three words before 2017. After Mark Canny and I published Thumos: Adulthood, Love & Collaboration, I confidently used them. In Chapter Six, we offered the first falsifiable definition of love and answered the following questions. What is love? How does it work; what should one do for it?

I love you.

I’m talking to the person who is now reading this sentence. Even after I die, those three words carry the same meaning.

I do not love you when I say those three words. “Loving words do not love,” according to the third law of love; see the video [The 8 Laws of Love in Thumoslang | T3love | S1E1](v=5jF1zSkaHxg).

When I say those three words, I make the following promise. My words in this story will adequately discharge all elements of love. They will help nurture your ideals, the milestones most meaningful to you in your life.

  • Your ideals; that means, your most meaningful milestones.
  • Love; that means, the nurturing of personal ideals.

You believe in what I write herein not because I tell you that it is true. You believe me because everything I say is falsifiable.

I love you.

You believe me when I now say those three words to you because you now know that they only express a promise of love but not love itself. When I say those three words to you, I promise that my words in this story will help you go faster towards your ideal self, what you truly want to become. “Everything else is secondary,” said Steve Jobs.

Before 2017, I did not understand what people meant when they used those three words. Now I know what these words must mean, and what they must not mean.

You must not believe in The 8 Laws of Love in Thumoslang. Alec Mustafayev and I used Thumoslang’s vocabulary to construct them. We are not trained philosophers, and we cannot be sure that the complete set should be eight or more laws. We can only share with you what we believe. I believe in The 8 Laws of Love in Thumoslang. We came up with them four years after Mark Canny and I published Thumos: Adulthood, Love & Collaboration. Chapter Six in the book spells out the elements of love, whereas the video explains how love works. Here is my suggestion for you. You either publish a better book or use the knowledge presented by both Chapter Six and the video.

My words don’t love you. Loving words do not love; my actions do. Only actions can love because only actions can translate energy from a promise of love to the feeling of being loved. Without energy exercised by the originator of love, the target of love cannot feel loved.

If you don’t believe me, try the following for size. Think of the following words: “I love my neighbors.” I don’t think your neighbors feel loved by your thoughts at all.

Here is another exercise. Think of the following words: “I love my nation.” I don’t think citizens around your nation feel loved by your thoughts at all.

Actions speak louder than words. These words apply to love even louder.

That’s a Russian proverb. “Trust, but verify.” Trust your lovers, but believe only in their actions. Here is my action. I take a lot of pain to ensure that my final words, this story, can help you and others around you live a good life full of love.

If you begin to feel loved by me, you appreciate falsifiability. If you couldn’t prove that the energy I used to write this story, and thus its words, moved your heart, you shouldn’t believe that I love you.

If you want others to believe that you love them, use falsifiability in your words. An easy way is to use Thumoslang. Each of its thumbnail definition is falsifiable; so is its vocabulary.

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It would be wonderful if you could help us correct or enhance any portion of this or another document we produced. In that case, please feel free to use our feedback form or contact the author directly; click here for his contact information. To obtain Thumoslang mentoring or other services, please contact the Quach & Mustafayev Group directly.

Revised at 10:27:30 AM on 12/14/2021 in Rhode Island, this document is updated regularly online and, when appropriate, updated in print. Use the following link for the latest version of this document

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