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Timesaving with Social Clarity

33 Your Bongo as Your Secondmind

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Breakthrough Ideas

[1] Albert Einstein famously wrote a riddle that was so complex that he claimed that 98% of people could not solve it.

[2] It involves five people living in five different colored houses who enjoy various beverages, smoke various cigars, and keep different pets. You have thousands of possibilities between these five variables but only one correct answer.

[3] To help you solve it, Einstein leaves 15 hints, such as “the person who smokes Pall Mall rears birds” and “the man living in the center house drinks milk.” With all this information, you were supposed to figure out who owns a pet fish.

[4] Your life is a lot like this riddle, except you only have three pieces of information: (1) Your physical existence begins with your birth. (2) Time passes, allowing you to do stuff until (3) Your physical existence ends with your death.

[5] You develop vague ideas between birth and death that you structure your life around. Some, like happiness, passion, and pleasure, are positive. Others, like regret, sin, and loneliness, are negative. Things get tricky because these concepts are subjective. They each cover a range, which is again personal. What makes you happy today may bring sadness to someone or yourself later! Despite this subjectivity, you must figure out what is worth pursuing and which is not.

  • Subjectivity; that means, in a person’s mind.
  • Subjective; that means, personally influenced.

[6] As the clock ticks, you will spend your time doing things you believe will bring you closer to the positive concepts and further from the negative ones. And along the way, you’ll experience the breadth of human conditions. They include triumph, shame, pride, fear, dreams, lies, art, sex, boredom, joy, loss, intimacy, and betrayal, but not necessarily in that order.

[7] This dynamic makes life complicated. You have to deal with an existence you never chose to be a part of. You take actions you hope will work, your suit of outcomes you think you want, only to potentially realize that what you got wasn’t what you expected. And then you die.

[8] Life is complex and leaves you with no choice but to deal with it. Unlike the Einstein riddle, life has far more than thousands of possibilities but no single correct answer. Only one thing is sure: your life will be what you make of it or what you let it become.

[9] The choice is yours!

[10] “What is your educational background?” asked Nickantony Quach in the YouTube series Thumoslang101.

[11] “What’s my educational background?” Ifeanyi Onyekaba, the boxer, was surprised, but he said proudly, “I’ve got a Bachelor’s degree; I’m a bachelor’s candidate. I graduated from college.”

[12] “That’s impressive,” Nick should have said, but he didn’t.

[13] “With a degree in what?” Nick asked.

[14] “Finance,” replied Ifeanyi.

[15] “How old are you?” Asked Nick.

[16] “Twenty-five,” answered Ifeanyi.

[17] “You have enough knowledge; stop learning!” Commanded Nick. “You spent much time learning to get more and more knowledge. No wonder you don’t have enough time for your business of the self and your company and country.”

[18] “Your company is the business unit whose mission is your product,” Nick already explained to Ifeanyi earlier in this three-hour-long conversation on camera. “Your business of the self is the company whose mission is your life.”

[19] “[So you feel like you] don’t have enough knowledge as a 25-year-old with a college degree. Are you telling me that your son [in the future] with a college degree at the age of 25 will still need much parenting from you?” Asked Nick.

[20] “Wait, say that again,” requested Ifeanyi.

[21] “When your son in the future graduates from college at 25, do you think he will still need parenting from you?” Nick repeated the question.

[22] “Not parenting, but life guidance,” said Ifeanyi.

[23] “That is a messed-up idea because in that case, most of us don’t know what we’re doing,” said Nick. “On the one hand, we don’t know when to stop parenting. On the other hand, we don’t know when we finish growing up.”

[24] “I don’t believe you will ever finish growing up, though,” said Ifeanyi.

[25] “Then you will always live a child’s life,” interpreted Nick.

[26] “When you say growing up, what do you mean?” Asked Ifeanyi.

[27] “Meaning that it’s time to create things. Stop learning. Stop discovering yourself. Life is not about discovering yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”

[28] The author of that idea is from Ireland: George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950), winner of the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1925.

[29] “Life is not about finding yourself; life is about creating yourself,” Nick repeated the idea. “So stop learning. Start creating. If you don’t understand how to create yourself, that’s a different problem. I can help you with that. Regardless, stop wasting your time finding yourself. You’ve done enough of education and learning.”

[30] “You’re a father,” Nick emphasized. “Stop acting like you’re a child or a student.”

[31] “Yeah, I think so,” said Ifeanyi. “That’s true. So my next question to you now is.”

[32] Ifeanyi stopped himself and restated his thought.

[33] “I think you’ve just hit the nail on the head,” said Ifeanyi. “At first, I was skeptical about what you said: stop discovering yourself and start creating yourself. That’s a good saying. That’s a powerful saying, but we must be careful simultaneously. You can’t create what you don’t discover, you know. You can never stop growing up as a person because growing up to myself. I don’t mean age-wise but evolution of the consciousness. For you to grow, your consciousness has to evolve. It will always keep on evolving because that’s who you are. The more you evolve, the more you meet different parts of yourself as you grow. That’s why I say you can never stop growing. So when I say you got to discover yourself, you got to understand how your mind works. That’s what discovering is to me. If I have fear, if fear is the limitation in my life, I cannot create anything no matter how go-go-go-go-go-go I am. I can go-go-go-go-go-go, but if I’m not confident from within myself. Confidence comes from knowing thyself, you know. You got to discover who you are. There’s something called neurolinguistic programming, you know. Others programmed you all your life. It’s now time for us to know who we are. Who are we? What is our own decision? What is still my parent’s programming running through my mind? So to discover that I need to deprogram myself for my parents’ programming. How do you do that? [You do that] by facing your fears and seeing the limitations in your life; see who created this limitation. When you erase this limitation, to me, that’s what I believe, that [is when] one is ready to create a life, you know. If you see the limitations running through your programming, you cannot create a real-life successfully. That’s what I believe, you know. That’s why I’d say. When you told me how to learn how to create yourself, I became inquisitive.”

[34] “I did not say learn how to create,” Interrupted Nick. “I did not say, learn how to create yourself. That’s learning.”

[35] “Ha, create your life,” understood Ifeanyi.

[36] “Stop finding yourself. Stop learning. Start creating.” Commanded Nick as Ifeanyi nodded.

[37] “Elaborate on that,” requested Ifeanyi.

[38] “Thank you for saying that,” said Nick. “If you want to create a product, what is the first step?”

[39] “Knowing the product,” said Ifeanyi. “I’ll have an idea of what product you’re trying to create and have a vision of the product.”

[40] “That’s not enough,” said Nick. “99% of the people who have [excellent] ideas about their products never have their products hit the drawing board, let alone go to the market.”

[41] “Yeah,” Ifeanyi agreed.

[42] “What is the first step once you have a vague idea of the product?” Asked Nick.

[43] “I don’t know,” said Ifeanyi.

[44] “The first step in building a nation, the first step in creating your company, the first step in running your business of the self is the same: design a checks-and-balances system in your decision-making process. For your company, you need to have a business partner. For your business of the self, you need to have a mentor. Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, and everyone had a mentor. To build a nation, you must bring people from various regions of your country together. So the first step is to build up your group. You are enemy number one of your own Kingdom, thanks to your self-biased thoughts, the thinking influenced by a single mind without checks and balances. [Alone you are someone] who thinks they know it all [and] do not need other people involved.”

[45] A moment of silence ensued.

[46] “Tell me who your partners are; I will tell you whether you have a chance to succeed in building that nation, that company, or that business of the self.” Said Nick. “By yourself? It would be a total disaster.”

[47] “Keep going,” said Ifeanyi. “I’m listening.”

[48] “You have to ask questions because I finished disclosing my idea,” said Nick. “I don’t hear your acknowledgment, so I don’t know whether you grasped my disclosure or not.”

[49] “To create my business of the self, I need a mentor?” Asked Ifeanyi.

[50] “Or a secondmind, an independent mind, someone interested in your future,” said Nick. “If you don’t have anybody caring about your future, your future is based on self-serving bias. Without checks and balances, self-biased thoughts are enemy number one against any business of the self.”

[51] Your life will be what you make of it or what you let it become. The choice is yours. If you intend to create yourself using checks and balances instead of self-serving bias, your secondmind is Thumoslang.

[52] Better yet, create a family by design: your bongo! A wealth-building friend group is a secondmind most people can build using in-person friends.

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